Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Leaving behind the person in personality

My thoughts of how I deal with learning to Love Someone, and my personal struggles with understanding the differences between loving a person and loving their personality.

Ok what a better time to write about this then now, I'm right in between loving a personality and I feel like I'm becoming in love with this person so.

These days we are so rapped up in wanting to be accepted so indulged in the crave to feel loved by another human being, I blame the parents...

As we look into this topic I hope you can start to identify if you really love someone or if you are just in love with some of their personality traits. You really can find a lot of awesome people with lovable traits. Most people on the world want to be nice people. Most of them want to "do onto others as is done onto you" and id like to believe that the greater population tries to do the right thing in every situation.

So lets all fall in love right! haha yeah, thats what many of us do. Notice that above I struggled writing that "id like to believe that the greater population...", you see I really believe that the population is getting worse and worse. Babies having babies, back talking spoiled kids, and the maturity of todays high school students show good examples of the decline of responsibility in our youth is becoming less and less every year. (lets not get off track GRR)

So back to learning the difference between loving a person and their personality.
Personality traits are the building blocks for the "tokens" that will become the love that you will have for a person. Out on the prowl for a mate you will meet a lot of very interesting people and with these encounters you will instantly notice certain things about them that you like and don't like, these are the personality traits that build the character that will determine if there is enough "material" present to start a relationship. In the same respect you will collect material on the other side of the scale, which i would hope would cause you to second guess your interests with this person.In every equation you where an operator is involved there are two sides of an equation and two sides of the operator.
EX 2+3=5 the 2 and 3 lay on one side of the equation and the 2 and the 3 lay on opposite sides of the operator. in order for the equation to be true, both sides of the equal sign must be true any way you read it.

Just like in relationships, you have to look at the good and the bad, and analyze the operators to find out if you can reach the proper answer on the other side of the equation.

Realize that you can love a lot of certain things about one person without getting together with them and that you can feel like you totally are in love with there awesomeness even thought there are some things that make you hesitant to the relationship.

There are many things that need to be said in this post but these are just my first few hrs of thought, please stay tuned ;)