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Introduction
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My battle
NOT SURE HOW FINISHED THIS IS
In this "chapter" I will discuss a huge fault of man. a fault that leads people to allow certain "things" in their lives even though they know they are not good for them. I will use relationships and dating as the Topic of discussion because lets face it 98% of us want to be happily married and i think that if you become pliable and start tolerating the idea of not finding the best person for you, you wont be able to be completely happy... ill explain below ;) click the link above for "reading"
Pliable:
1. easily bent; flexible; supple: pliable leather.
2. easily influenced or persuaded; yielding: the pliable mind of youth.
3. adjusting readily to change; adaptable.
Tolerance
1. the power or capacity of an organism to tolerate unfavorable environmental conditions
2. a disposition to allow freedom of choice and behavior [syn: permissiveness] [ant: restrictiveness]
3. the act of tolerating something
4. willingness to recognize and respect the beliefs or practices of others [ant: intolerance]
5. a permissible difference; allowing some freedom to move within limits [syn: allowance]
Truth
1. Conformity to fact or actuality.
2. A statement proven to be or accepted as true.
3. Sincerity; integrity.
4. Fidelity to an original or standard.
5. Reality; actuality.
In the introduction I discussed being completely happy, lets get this out of the way first. Ill try to define this. Completely Happy is knowing that what ever happens you can always work though the issue, Complete happiness comes from having the spirit of God inside you, being able to work though issues and continuing to love someone is also a very "Godly" trait.
And we know from the definitions that pliable is something that is bendable
and that tolerance is the freedom to move with in a certain limit
A scale of tolerance in my mind is when you define a balance in your life of what is tolerable and what is not tolerable. When you try to define a balance you place certain things on each side of a scale measuring the good and bad. There are only two sides to that scale and they are pretty well defined as "things i will allow" and "things that i cant allow". When this side of the scale becomes "things that i shouldn't allow" or "things that i shouldn't touch often" you have become tolerant to a pliable scale. It can be very dangerous to play around in "the bad side" and if it is with something incredibly important to you, you should do everything you can to keep the scale black and white.
Example, if you are Christian and you love Jesus, you prob have created a little moral checklist with your Spirit about the things you will allow in your life and the things that you wont do (a moral scale of good and bad). you have created this list in hopes that you will do nothing wrong to upset God and that way you will be favored at the end of time. If you were to become pliable with this scale you would in turn be flirting with pissing off God if thats what you have defined as the purpose of creating this scale. In other words if the reason you created the scale was to keep away from the stuff you thought would not be good for you and would make God mad, then as soon as you start flirting with these "items" then you are flirting with "pissing off God".
The same can be said for relationships, dating, food, anything you measure.
I myself sometimes find it difficult to acknowledged that i create scales to balance my life, i just prefer not to judge, but when it comes down to it, God will judge me so if i don't create some sorta of way to judge myself i cant expect to keep myself "in check"
The process of dating is a long sometimes confusing journey of "throwing out the bait" and seeing if the "fish" you are trying to "get" likes your "bait". Often times we are so excited to see a nibble on this fishing pole that we will do everything we can to get this fish into the boat of a "relationship", no matter the type of fish. I believe we do this for many reasons, and i think that now days we want to be loved so badly we are willing to accept a fish that isn't the type of fish we need... enought calling the person we want to date a "fish" from here on out I will use myself and the word Woman instead of fish, to explain the scale of tolerance.
When looking for a Woman I personally have been very Pliable when choosing a person to date. (it should also be noted that i don't get into relationships with people if i don't think there is a possibility of marriage) The dangers of having pliable tolerance is that we start to let the "absolutes" we create for our "wife" become traits that can be learned or acquired during dating with a girlfriend. I believe that there are certain things that should be absolutes with a wife and i will have stop allowing myself not to seek out a girlfriend with the same quality's. For instance i need a wife that loves Jesus, hands down true absolute, good absolute, non dangerous, non selfish, quality wife trait. If i allow my self to be pliable to this absolute for some pretty girl that i hope God will eventually get to, i "sit" in lingo waiting for the girlfriend to become a wifeable (thats a barcus word) woman.
